Self Empowered Woman

 

January 31, 2007

Learn To Be Happy and Here’s How

Filed under: How To Be Happy — Kakak Neng @ 4:35 pm

Up until five years ago, I was not a happy person. It puzzled me whenever I saw anyone with the capacity to laugh and be contented despite his/her circumstances in life. I actually believed that your life was planned for you and there was nothing that you could do about it.

It wasn’t until I was looking for a place to rest “internally” that I discovered, literally a whole new world. Thus began my journey of self-discovery and today I finally found the power that I possess within me to live a happier life. There was a major shift in my attitude to life and I am so grateful for it and I want to share with other women what I have learned (and continuously am learning) about what it takes to take control of your life.

Believe me it is such an awesome feeling and I am not paying lip-service when I say that my spirit is flying these days.

The irony is this is despite the fact that I am presently challenged financially, I can still find things to be happy about.

I am happy that I overcame the fear of the future or the unknown and took a leap of faith and quit my job which I had suffered tremendous bashing of self-esteem for years. I put faith in the universe and in God, and I chose to believe only good things can only come after this. I have served time in my own “prison”.

You know my state of mind then 24/7 was - I hate this job, I hate I hate I hate. When I reached home, I could not detach myself from the thought of the next day. I had come to a stage in my career where I had seen it all, done it all, and to move to another place would mean greater disadvantages - paywise, environment wise, etc. The upside was I had invested in building great relationships with all the clients and unlike many others, that gave me a solid reason for getting up each day and going to work. Until yet another change in one client’s turnover, this time a young ambitious and political woman entered the scene - and suddenly I was so so tired. And then everything was calling out to me - Get A Life.

I didn’t liberate myself only at that moment - I had begun that journey years earlier by going inward. That day I messaged my husband that I had quit my job (without another job), and I felt that was sealed.

I didn’t know what to expect but I was upbeat, I was so peaceful and in total bliss. Not a moment of doubt that I had done the right thing. Just before I left I attended a free seminar on internet marketing. I didn’t realize it then but it was to be my pathway to the future. The more I know, the more I wanted to know. It was not borne out of need to make money but a hope to live a better life by making income online and for the long haul. I figured I could still find freelance work for the time being while setting up the online business, many people do that. It was only then that I saw, that job was not the end all and be all, to my existence and financially.

I just want to express my gratefulness for the abundance in my life, which I would not have noticed if I did not have awareness and self-empowerment.

Twelve months down the line, I have had tremendous learning curve, I have met internet gurus, who are multi-millionaires and there was one, whom I had lunch with. In my entire corporate career, I never lunched with a millionaire and an international one too :) .

I am blessed I have found a partner (this is like two weeks after I left my job) who is like-minded and skilled in web development to quickly grow our business.

I am blessed that my husband is understanding of my circumstances and gives me space to build my business.

I am blessed that I have found two international mentors at the turn of the year and today I have completed their lessons and moving forward with a solid system.

I am blessed that my savings have been able to hold me up for the last year while I learned the ropes.

I am blessed for my only child who gives me incredible meaning in life and reason to celebrate motherhood.

I am blessed that I have found my purpose in life, how to make a living doing the things I love, am able to rise above many situations. Most of the times . I realized that when my attitude to life and people change, life and people change towards me ! Is that not just amazing?

The sceptics amongst you would probably agree with the old me:

* Don’t worry Be Happy (yeah right!)

* Give and you shall receive (I don’t have much how to give?)

* In order for other people to change, you have to change yourself first (this one really GOT to me!)

* Be forgiving (in the heat of the moment, that is tough)

* You can change your life (like huh?)

* You can manifest whatever you want in your life? (LIKE HUH?)

* Smile often (whatever for??)

* Love yourself (isn’t that self-centered?)

* Make time for yourself (I have no time, I am busy earning a living and tending to family)

* Kindness begets kindness, love begets love, compassion begets compassion (too abstract!)

Well that was the sum of my negativity and rejections at basic lessons in life.

Until then, stay tuned.

Be grateful for your life.

Nora

 

January 26, 2007

Transformation - A Time For Change

Filed under: How To Be Happy — Kakak Neng @ 2:47 pm

By Bonnie Moss 

At one point and time in life, we go through a major transformation hopefully mostly for the better. It can be a conscious choice, it can be from a crisis, or a totally unexpected change.

A major change in life can bring an important message worth paying attention to. Some can say their life will never be the same.

What brings about these transformations? Relationships, career changes, family matters from happy times to sad times, illness, grief, material difficulties, an accident, unfulfilled dreams, bottled up frustrations that finally decide to pop the lid. A winfall can do it in a big way. A traumatic experience can trigger an extreme transformation.

It is said that dramatic changes in life happen for a reason. At the moment of confusion, this is hard to comprehend. Some would cry “why me?”

“ It’s unfair. “ Guilt , anger and fear obscure the vehicle for transformation.

Most people will strive to rise from the fall and move on. Some recognize the opportunity for spiritual growth. This can be a major transformation. It actually can bring about a major lifestyle change. Some would embrace this opportunity.

Some see the chance to pursue their dreams and why not? At this point, what else have they got to lose? They are the troopers who find opportunity when problems come their way. To them, it is a stepping stone to greener pastures. Armed with the experience and knowledge they’ve gained, they explore and expand their horizons. They are able to re-invent themselves. They accept the challenge and walk a new path through transformation

After facing and surviving a life-changing crisis, one must move on. There are some who may not find the way. This is most unfortunate. It seems like they dig deeper into the mire. Tragic, but it happens.

This is a critical time, a time to seek counsel. A time to reach out to someone. Consider seeking assistance from community services if there is no family to turn to.

But please don’t think that the world is cruel. Amazing and true, in very trying times, hearts open, hands reach out from total strangers. Don’t feel that you’re all alone. You’re not.

It is important to step back and think your way out of a dilemma. It is not the time to make hasty decisions. Consider the options carefully. Treasure the nuggets of insights, the lessons learned when life presents us with major transformations. And on to the next chapter of life.

The sun always shines brighter after a storm.

About the author:

Bonnie Moss writes to inspire and to motivate her readers to explore the depths of their heart and soul. She draws from personal experience and her interest in the New Age Visit her website =>http://goldencupcafe.tripod.com